Christine Hassler: “When we feel whole and complete in ourselves, we don’t have unrealistic expectations about others.”
Posted by adminJun 22
Christine Hassler
Northwestern University
Class of 1998
Age: Thirty-something
First Job After Graduation: Assistant at William Morris, a Hollywood Agency.
Number of Jobs since graduation: At least ten
Current Job: Life coach, counselor, author, professional speaker, spokesperson, consultant, and
champion of Gen Y! (www.christinehassler.com)
Marital Status: Single
When I was preparing to graduate from college I felt…
Stressed out. I was excited to get my career started but overwhelmed in terms of how to do it. When I graduated, I didn’t have a job. I knew I wanted to work in the entertainment industry and the rule of thumb was that you needed to move to LA before applying for positions. Making a move without secured employment was exciting but also nerve racking.
My biggest fear about graduating was…
Picking the wrong job or not getting the right job.
I conquered this fear by…
I don’t know that I did conquer that fear. In my life coaching practice, I say that courage isn’t about getting over fear, it is about moving forward even if fear is present. Although I felt fear, I didn’t allow the fear to paralyze me. I kept moving, putting one foot in front of the other and taking action steps. Anxiety is only possible when we’re thinking about the future. I was so conditioned to thinking about the future – sticking to a preconceived timeline of when I would get married and have kids or how my career would develop – that my vision stressed me out more than the reality of my day to day life. I had to teach myself to focus, be present, and take one step at a time.
My best piece of romantic advice is…
To read more, stay tuned for The Graduate Guru book. In the meantime, follow The Graduate Guru on Facebook and Twitter.
One comment
Comment by PHIL ESPINOZA on January 3, 2012 at 10:36 am
This is me! This aticle gave me valuable information on the fact that I know that I am the type of man that feels he “must” be in a relationship otherwise I don’t feel right! or Complete! and that is me! That problem I believe has almost destroyed me due to forced relationships I chose in my past. I’m 56 and finally finding this out..I thought this by myself…and now, your article “validates” much of my problems! Thanks…..